I am an Adult

Seems that every Monday i will post somethings about my conversation with my mum.

Every weekend i will call home and chit-chat with my mum and my sons. Recently my mum was keep on pressing me on why i spent a lot of money on nonsense things like hanging out with my friends. It is over that she ask me NOT to hanging out with my friends anymore because she want me to send more money for family.

I need to clarify that i do have send money back every month. I didn't compare myself with others peers as i need to raise my sons. But i need my private time like hanging out with my friends and this is the only way out to let go my loneliness in Sg. She loves me to stay home and soon become a nerd. Am i have a great potential become that? I am absolutely will not let her do that to me.

My mum was like the controller of my life, every step and move of me is controlling by her. I can not against her. I never say No to her since she was so love to plan my whole life in her favor. I do whatever she want, she like, she ask and blablabla....Is this too much for a mum's responsibility upon her daughter or son? I am no longer 12 years old girl and I'm going to turn 25 years old in months time later. Parents always pointed out which is the best way for us but couldn't we voice out our view on how we wish to spend the rest of life?

I was trying to discuss with my friends on this issue. I need their opinions on am i not doing well as a daughter. At least i feel much comfort afterwards...i mean a while. My head will not stop thinking how to become a perfect daughter for my mum. How to let my mum feel that i can do my own decision. How to change my mum's mindset. How to get rid of my mum's critical opinion on how badly i am.

What an adult has, i need most now.